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Baker Tower and the library on a sunny early fall day, as seen from Tuck Drive. There is a blue sky and many trees visible in the background.

When I was applying to college, I treated the whole process like a solo mission—just me, my laptop, and a terrifyingly detailed spreadsheet. But in reality, it was a full-blown family operation. Sure, I was the one filling out applications and hitting submit, but behind the scenes, my parents were along for the ride too. 

I recently asked my mom what worried her most during the whole process. Her answer? That I wouldn't get into a school that I was genuinely excited about. "I wasn't worried that you'd get into a 'good' school," she told me. "I just wanted it to be the best school for you." Translation: she knew I'd be fine academically wherever I landed, but she wanted me to find somewhere that felt like home. 

Another major source of stress? Money. Like a lot of families, we didn't have much information about college finances. "We didn't really understand the cost or how to prepare for it," my dad said. Thankfully, we eventually found that there are great resources to help with that—like Dartmouth's financial aid website

My dad, Brian, standing in front of a pile of mossy rocks. He is smiling and has a hand raised towards the camera.
When my parents visit campus, we like exploring trails in the Upper Valley together!

When I asked what they would do differently, my mom immediately mentioned Early Decision. "I would've been more involved in your research," she said. "You knew what you wanted, so we went with it—but I'm not sure we totally understood the whole process!" My parents let me take the wheel, which I appreciated, but looking back, they both wished I had looped them in more on the "why" behind my choices.

Fast forward to now, though, and they couldn't be happier. "You've had so many opportunities these past two years," my dad said. "You've done things you probably wouldn't have even had the chance to try anywhere else," my mom added.

They still talk about our first visit to campus during Dimensions (Dartmouth's admitted student programming). "We were just so excited," my mom said. "The mountains, the historic buildings, the Green—it was surreal to think that you'd be living there." Coming from a rural town in the Midwest, they immediately felt at ease with Dartmouth's small-town charm and safe campus. Hanover felt a bit like home, but just unfamiliar enough to be exciting.

The backs of three people crossing a crosswalk, holding umbrellas.
When my family visits campus, they tell me they feel right at home.

If you're a parent in the thick of college applications right now, here's what I'd say: trust your student, but know when to step in. Ask questions (and stay open to any answer). Be curious. Share in your student's excitement and be there for them when they need your support. Your student might seem like they've got it figured out, but your perspective is important!

In the end, I couldn't be happier with my decision. Dartmouth has become my home—and knowing that my family loves it too? That just makes it even better.

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