College is just a Bridge, not the Goal
It's been more than two years since the time when I was working on my college applications, the summer before my senior year in high school. After you get in (I knew early on where I had gotten in because I applied Early Decision to Dartmouth) and you finally relax—"You made it!"—under the constant praises from friends, family, and college counselors, you easily forget about that time. The tiring process of writing one essay after another and doubting yourself (do I even have a chance for this school?) slips away from your mind and memory.
Until you find yourself entering a similar state of mind two years later…
I've been thinking about the fluctuations in my mindset, ever since I got into Dartmouth, and how it connects to my stress levels and my ability to enjoy my time here. After some soul-searching and thought examination, I circled back to something I heard when preparing to apply to college: "College is just a bridge, not the final goal."
The mentor who told me this was talking about extracurricular activities and application essays. He didn't want his mentees to take up activities, sign up for classes, and approach their college essays with the mindset of: "what do I do to get into a good school?"
College is just a bridge to take you from where you are now to where you want to be next. It isn't the final goal.
Coming to campus, I quickly plunged myself into a pool of expectations: everyone around me is incredibly successful and strives to be even more incredibly successful, pursuing internships, job openings, and graduate schools. I should be living up to those standards. Not knowing any better, I decided to swim in this pool of expectations, which mentally weighed the future potential of the classes I was taking and the activities I was doing… I did not (successfully) pursue any activities at Dartmouth with the explicit goal of landing a future opportunity that would equate to "incredible success" (extrinsic motivation doesn't really work on me). But I kept constantly worrying if the things I did enjoy doing were enough.
The worrying stopped when I remembered this piece of advice from my college-application era: "College is a bridge, not the final goal."
Any future opportunity is just a bridge, I realized. A bridge to something I genuinely care about, a bridge to my true goals. Now life feels better :) Hopefully, your application-writing feels better, too.