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At the beginning of the term, I wrote about coming back to campus for the first time since my sophomore summer. To quickly recap: I wasn't taking classes, but I filled my time by working a few jobs, enjoying campus traditions, and trying a lot of new things.

Now, as I sit in the airport during a 5-hour layover on the way back from my spring break trip, I want to reflect on what I learned outside of the classroom this term. I think the lessons sort neatly into three broad categories: relaxing isn't wasting time, you learn a lot by listening, and the people around you are the whole point.

Relaxing isn't wasting time

With a busy college schedule, it can be easy to forget that humans were not built to live in 10-week sprints with calendars booked from sunrise to sunset. Although I love my color-coded Google Calendar, adding events called "free time" and "snack break" between back-to-back events can feel suffocating at times.

Two lion stuffed animals sitting on a table. In the foreground, a hand holding a phone is taking a picture of the lions.
I took advantage of my free time by participating in almost every Winter Carnival activity this term, including making stuffed animals at the Collis Center for Student Involvement!

This term taught me that sometimes it's okay to sit in a place you like with people you love and let that be enough. Some of my favorite memories from the term happened on days where I woke up with no plans other than "see friends" and "have fun."

As I prepare to take classes again, I want to keep a bit of that spirit alive. I'll be doing so by saying "yes" to more opportunities, carving out time for myself even on my busiest days, and working to make responsibilities like homework and meetings more enjoyable by working on them outside or in the company of friends.

You learn a lot by listening

If you know me, you know that I love to talk. It's something that's always been true about me, and that's led me to a lot of places—on two study abroad terms to practice speaking in a different language, across the Upper Valley to have conversations with my neighbors, and into leadership roles where being vocal is incredibly important.

But something I've been more conscious about lately (and putting a lot of effort into) is taking time to pause before speaking. I've been guilty before of not listening to whoever I'm talking to because I'm so excited to jump in with my own thoughts and ideas. That's a habit I'd like to kick.

Dartmouth students wearing hockey helmets smiling in a selfie.
Some of my closest friends, including my IM hockey teammates, taught me valuable lessons this term.

This term gave me the space to practice that. Without the pressure of class discussions where I felt like I needed to prove something, I could just be present with people. I started noticing how much richer a conversation gets when you ask a follow-up question instead of pivoting to your own story. The most meaningful conversations I had this winter happened because I chose to stay quiet a beat longer than I normally would. It turns out people will tell you incredible things if you just give them the room to do so.

The people around you are the whole point

If there's one thing this term drove home more than anything else, it's that my favorite part about Dartmouth is the community. The people here really make the place.

I know that sounds obvious. Everyone says it. But it's one thing to know it and another thing to feel it so clearly that it reshapes how you spend your time. Without a packed schedule dictating where I needed to be every hour, I got to choose where I wanted to be. And almost every time, I chose to be with people.

At Ledyard Council during Week 10, our intro question of the day was to shout out three people in the room we were grateful for. As I looked around, I felt an overwhelming sense of luck—luck to be in that room, in that moment, with those specific people who had made my term so full.

Students playing instruments in the basement of Robinson Hall during Ledyard Council
Council is different every week—earlier in the term, we had a talent show featuring a band of Ledyardites.

My friend Dylan gave me a shoutout, mentioning that because I "had a lot of free time this term," we were able to have a lot of fun. On Monday evenings, we had a recurring dinner at Collis Microbrews as part of the Ledyard Council routine that I quite enjoyed. 

But I think he missed something important. Free time doesn't automatically become quality time—you have to put in a conscious effort. This term, my small but intentional decisions to spend time with my friends added up. They reminded me that community isn't something that just happens to you. It's something you build, one meal or meeting at a time.

As I head into spring term with a full schedule again, I'm carrying these lessons with me: rest when you need to, listen more than you speak, and never take your people for granted.

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